Everyone reacts differently to the same event that happens in their lives.
Why does this happen? It's because each of us has our own "core beliefs" that are formed as a person develops and experiences traumatic and stressful experiences.
Importantly, external events and situations not only trigger our thoughts, but they also activate the connection to previous experiences.
Therefore our thoughts are, in large part, the consequences of "deep-seated beliefs".
To understand more easily what "deep-seated beliefs" are, imagine an analogy with the foundation on which a house stands.
Beliefs are the lenses through which we see and interpret the world around us. They shape our thoughts, emotions, and actions, and ultimately, they run our lives. If our beliefs are negative or limiting, they can hold us back from achieving our goals and living the life we truly desire.
Similarly, in the psyche, "deep-seated beliefs" are a person's basic ideas about himself or herself. Which are formed, as a rule, in the early stages of life, as a set of basic ideas about yourself. And in everyday life, they are perceived, uncritically, as a priori true and correct. Their existence is unknown to the individual.
As a result of developmental and upbringing conditions, they are classified into two types: positive experiences, which assist one in achieving success, and negative experiences, which cause trouble.
The negative ones are exemplified below:
"I am nothing."
"I am stupid."
"I am weak."
"I am a failure and unworthy."
"The world is dangerous."
"You can't trust anyone."
"There's something wrong with me."
“I should have known better”
"I am unattractive," etc.
“I have no purpose”
Because a person needs to adapt in life, since it is very difficult and sometimes even unbearable to live in society, feeling these deep convictions on oneself, a person, relying on them, forms "intermediate convictions" as a set of certain rules that serve as bandages, which can bandage the wound so that the pain subsides, for a while, but not cure it completely.
As it manifests in a person's life, he must show strength to everyone and everywhere, not only in his painful "deep-seated conviction" that "I am weak".
To not feel his "deep-seated belief," "I am helpless" - "I have to keep everything, always, under control, no matter what it costs me."
There are dozens of these basic rules.
I must always and everywhere be the best.
I must always succeed.
I must have everyone around me like me and always leave a good impression.
I must never make mistakes.
I must be a responsible mother.
We are governed by deeper beliefs that permanently develop automatic thoughts, which we don't look at, but which we can invisibly control over our daily lives.
As a professional trained in helping people change their negative beliefs, I can offer five strategies to help shift your beliefs and improve your life:
Identify your negative beliefs: The first step in changing your beliefs is to become aware of them. Pay attention to your self-talk and notice when you are thinking negatively about yourself, others, or the world.
Challenge your negative beliefs: Once you have identified your negative beliefs, challenge them. Ask yourself if they are really true and if there is evidence to support them. Often, negative beliefs are based on assumptions or past experiences that are no longer relevant.
Replace your negative beliefs with positive ones: Once you have challenged your negative beliefs, replace them with positive ones. Choose beliefs that are empowering, supportive, and aligned with your goals and values.
Surround yourself with positive influences: Surround yourself with people who have positive beliefs and who support and encourage you. Read books, listen to podcasts, and attend events that promote positivity and personal growth.
Practice self-compassion: Changing your beliefs takes time and effort, and it's important to be patient and kind with yourself. Practice self-compassion and celebrate your progress along the way.
By changing your negative beliefs, you can transform your life and create the success and happiness you desire.
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